Let Mama start out by saying that one is extremely lucky to in the position to be a SAHM (stay-at-home-mama). It’s one of life’s most rewarding and most difficult jobs but it’s nice to have that time to be there to see your children each and every day discover the ways of the world. They are the future of the world and as a SAHM you have a large part in how their future turns out as well. However, all stay-at-home Mamas are cursed. HOW? Well, let Mama explain…

People seem to forget that we were once working women — “career women” — at that. At least Mama was…correction IS! Most people that don’t know Mama’s ins-and-outs don’t realize how much Mama does besides just being a Mama. Mama besides taking care of the three littles, also runs a PR and event business, is a freelance writer for several other sides besides this one and manages to volunteer at Lily-girl’s school. It’s okay – Mama loves to busy and use her talents to the fullest. Being a SAHM, people assume that it means that Mama can sew, cook and vacuum better than the next. Not true in this case….Mama does everything that a working mom does except Mama is lucky enough to be able to do it from the comfort of home in pajamas if needed.

Mama can plan a champagne-taste event from A to Z on a Two-Buck Chuck budget in half the amount of time as someone without this experience. Mama can is quite crafty and can usually come up with something to make the centerpieces with in no time flat. Need tickets for an auction? No problem — let Mama call in a favor from one of the many PR people in town that Mamas knows. This is stuff Mama can do…however, most people don’t know this. They assume that all Mama does is be a Mama and this…this is the curse of the SAHM — People assume that it’s all that you are.

So while some Mamas are quite happy to hand out “mommy cards” touting their cute e-mail addresses and phone numbers above the self-given title “Jack’s Mama,” Mama rather go beyond that and find out who they really are and what they can bring to the table. Mama learned the hard way of the SAHM curse earlier this year when volunteering at Lily-girl’s school…is Mama not vocal enough about what Mama can do other than bake cookies for a bake sale and be a member of the carpool (of course, Mama does not want them to find about Mama HERE…yikes!)?!

Then there’s the thought that other Mamas are afraid of being overshadowed in their own social circles by a newcomer Mama. If one has planned the dance/auction/graduation/whatever event it may be previously and this new Mama does a fabulous job and everyone raves about it — now what?! She feels bad and is pushed out for next year…maybe it’s best not to let anyone else do anything. Mamas are always competing against other Mamas. When we dress-up, it’s not for our husbands or partners — nope, it’s for the other women to show them how good we CAN look beyond the carpool! Men could care less…especially when you’ve married as long as most of us have been.

Or it could be that once you actually speak up about your talents and people catch wind…you’re wrangled for EVERY event and function to coordinate and execute — that is NOT what Mama is volunteering at this time. So it really is a curse to be a SAHM or a WAHM. Believe Mama…there are many days when working from an office far away from the kids sounds so amazing but in the end, Mama knows that she is a much better time manager when juggling three kids. It takes talent to be able to multi-task like that and just because Mama rather write and land a great media hit than trying out a new casserole recipe doesn’t mean that anything but that…however, Mama is still cursed!

Do you ever feel like your talents are overlooked as a SAHM?

By the way, that is a REAL doll that you can order and Mama thinks it’s a great gift for any Super Mama! SuperMom Action Figure, $16, at happyworker.com – just to remind yourself how wonderful you are at multi-tasking.